So, Lizzy's mom called me the other day. There have been several calls...but one was kinda interesting. She is in another state far away from here, if you recall, and she and her new boyfriend are working on getting a house. She said to me, "Once I get things settled down here I can work on getting Lizzy back." I am so used to her saying wacky things that I just let it go. Then she started talking about how I am adopting Lizzy and that as soon as I get the papers she will sign them. (She thinks she will be signing papers that say Lizzy is going right to me, we all know that isn't how this works, but whatever).
So, because I am crazy and pregnant now I called her out on her conflicting comments. I said, "You know you just said you were going to try to get her back and then said you are signing her over to me. You know that if you sign over your rights to this child that NO ONE is going to be giving her back to you. Not me, not our state, no one."
Yes, I know, not the non confrontational thing to say, but quite frankly if she wants to fight for her she can and if she doesn't she won't and I don't care what she does because whatever is going to happen is going to happen. With her, with legal dad...I am at the courts mercy (actually LIZZY is at the courts mercy) and I am just not going to worry about something I cannot control.
She answers back, "Oh I know, I know, I know I can't take care of her right now and you can give her the life I never had. I want her to have that." I said, "Ok, because you know I will always make sure you know what you are signing and I don't want you to think you can get her back when you can't." Mom said, "Oh, I know you wouldn't do that."
It is just interesting to hear her rambling comments and thoughts. I am not sure she can fully understand what is going on. She has an 11 yr old son that she hasn't seen in like 9 years and she still acts like he is going to come back to her (which he very well may hunt her down when he is grown) and she hasn't let go at all of the fact that she is his mom. Which, is normal? I don't know. She learns to accept things, but maybe there is a layer of denial that helps her get through this stuff. Anyway, I never thought I would say to someone whose child I was considering adopting "You KNOW I'm not giving this kid back to you right?" but, now I have.