Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Sugar.

Took all 7, by myself, to get donuts this morning.  They all did great.  It is nice to have a "nice" morning with the kids.

Friday, June 27, 2014

Too long.

It cracks me up that I feel like I have nothing to say when there is soooo much to say.  So much.

We are still a family of nine, even though that was never really a question, but some days it feels like we are lucky to finish another day as a family unit.

I have SO many kids!

They are such hard work!

But I don't know what I would do without them.

Every day it is something.  This one puked, that one peed, this one lied, that one emptied a whole roll of toilet paper into the toilet....

It is funny what you are capable of when you have no option of quitting.

We are close to two years into this adoption and I still find myself wondering, "Is that a sign she has RAD?"  "Is he doing that because he has RAD?"

I still worry about that scary diagnosis.  None of my kids have been diagnosed with anything.  Even the one that came to me with ADHD has since been undiagnosed.  I long for the day that I don't worry about what the future holds.

All I can say is that things ARE getting better, getting easier...we are becoming a family.  It is a lot of work though.

Monday, February 17, 2014

On becoming a CASA....

You know, I have had times when I was like, "I WILL become a CASA!"

It sounds kinda great, especially after being in many situations where I felt totally helpless when it came to court and my foster kids.

My concerns are:

How much time it will take to train to become a CASA.  I am not sure if I am exaggerating it in my head, but I feel like I probably wouldn't have enough time right now.  I will have to look into that.



Also, I have heard about a few not so good CASAs and how much the foster parents don't like them.  I worry that I might find myself in a situation like that.  What if they don't like me?  At least one party won't, most likely, because you will be on a "side".



I am not sure that I can be impartial.  I feel like I might think that every bio needs their rights terminated because I have been a foster parent.  But, on the flip side, what if I am too sympathetic to the bios?  Even in my own children's cases I would tend to make excuses for them.



I know the goal is to be on the side of the child.  I think I could do that.  Perhaps I would need to be a CASA to an older child so they could tell me what THEY want...even though that could come with its own set of issues if I don't agree with them....

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

I am aching for a call to come that won't.  I wonder what I should do with my need to foster when I cannot foster.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Changes.

Lizzy's bio dad moved to the other side of the country.  Pretty much as far away from us as he could without leaving the country.

I felt myself exhale a little bit upon learning this news.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

wow.

where have I been???

darn facebook.

makes me not feel the need to blog.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

One year ago everything changed.

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It has been a little over a year since our sibling group of three officially moved in.  If you don't know our whole story here are the basics:

-My husband and I have been married for 12 years

-We had 2 biological children and one newly adopted child (from foster care) when we decided to adopt a sib group of 3 (also from foster care)

-Two months after the sib group of 3 moved in, their biological mom gave birth to a 4th baby that no one knew was coming

-We decided to take the baby as well and adopt her along with the 3 siblings


The sibling group of three came  to live with us permanently in October of 2012.  The baby came in December of 2012.

For the past year we have been sorting out our life that was flipped upside down by adopting so many little ones all at once.  Currently, the ages of my children are:

11, 7, 5, 4, 3, 2 and 1.

Yes, it is crazy around here.

Over the past 12 months we have dealt with a lot of normal issues that most adopting families will go through.  There has been lying, problems at school, attachment issues, sleeping issues, peeing issues, more lying, jealousy, grief...did I mention lying already?  The funny part is that we managed to adopt four of the most wonderful kids you will ever meet and we STILL had to deal with so many of the issues that people warn you about.

It has not been easy, but we are getting there.  Most of the issues I mentioned are gone now.  Thank goodness.  They still come up here or there, but over all most days are good days.  There really is not much that is easy about adoption.  For me, the only easy part was the "fall in love with a kid you don't really know" part.  Then, they move in and you have to get over the "idea" of who you thought the child was going to be and really work on falling in love with who the child really is.  That is where we are today.  I absolutely love my kids and I am so thankful that they are part of my family.

When they first moved in, all the bad behaviors came out and it is crazy how hard it can be to "like" a child when they are doing one horrible thing after another.  "Love" and "like" are two completely different things, and I am so glad that after many rough months I can say I "love" and actually "LIKE" my children.

I think all I really wanted to share with people was that adopting is hard, but it is worth it.  We have just been through the hardest year of our lives, and we look around and cannot believe how blessed we have been through it all.  We never gave up.  Even before the adoption was finalized and some pretty rough stuff happened, we never gave up on our kids.  They needed a family, they needed a home, and we needed them.

If you want to read more about our crazy lives you can feel free to poke around my blog or "like" my "Mama Foster" page on Facebook.  I love meeting foster moms, potential foster moms, and other foster families.  I love adoption.  I love talking about adoption.  I believe from the depths of my soul that God cares deeply for "the orphan" and that we are called to do the same.

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