Lizzy is a spaz. She is very high strung, appears to be addicted to pop and candy (which was an even huger issue when we first get her at 18 mo. old) and still has a hard time controlling herself in a way that seems to be different than other three year olds.
I am thinking about putting Lizzy on a gluten free, dairy free, white processed sugar free diet.
I am scared of how she will react to this. I worry that it will be a rough few days at first. I am trying to get myself ready to do this because I don't really feel like doing it, but it probably just needs to be done.
I am hoping that if I can do it for two weeks I will see enough of a change in her that I will want to keep doing it.
I guess the reason I am mentioning it here is to see if any of you have done anything like this and what difference did you see in your kids.
Lizzy's worker came over yesterday as I mentioned. She (Lizzy) was super hyper, yet good for 2/3 of the time.
After that she lost her mind.
She started to go down hill and it was not pretty. She wanted candy, I said no, so she started whining and reaching for the candy bowl that was on top of the fridge. She started pulling at my arms for no reason other than to be ridiculous. She wanted to go outside so she whined and hung on the sliding glass door handle. Eventually I told her to go to her room and she ran off screaming.
That was nice.
The social worker said she was glad to see I was stern with her and that she knew I meant business. She said she thinks a lot of foster parents pretend to be way too nice in front of her instead of acting like real parents. Thank goodness for good social workers.
I mentioned to her that I found a day camp I was thinking of putting Lizzy in, but I was worried about how she will behave and I would warn the workers about her.
The worker said 'just throw her in there and don't tell them anything, that way they don't expect the worst.'. I like this idea and I know there is a chance she would behave...and then the other part of me is cracking up, as if I would be pulling a huge trick on these poor workers. Lol
I thought about not calling back today because I was nervous. I decided to call her back anyway.
We talked, as normal, for an hour. We chatted about her newest special needs foster baby. And eventually about the sibs.
The sibling group of three that she has that we are "interested" in adopting status is:
-Mom's rights were terminated some time last week
-Dad's has his termination trial next week
(it will take around 30 days to hear what the decision is because it is being heard by a referee)
If Dad gets terminated on, after the 30 days + about a week, their adoption case will be turned over to a private agency. It will probably be the agency that they are being fostered through. I guess their old foster care worker is now an adoption worker and she has requested their adoption case already.
I asked if there was ANYONE in line for them. I guess there is a "great uncle" in a state far away from us who does foster care who checked in on them when they first came into care, but hasn't been heard from since-that was 18 months ago.
So, what does this mean?
-It means that these kids will probably be available for adoption early this summer.
-It means that they will probably look into the uncle first.
-Then any other family.
-Then there is a chance that whatever agency holds their adoption file may want to adopt them out to one of their own families.
So, there you have it. The list of things God will have to cross off to get them to us.
I sure am intrigued to see if He just wants us to be willing to do this or if He wants us to raise these kids.
Oh...and their foster mom's opinion of this?
"I would be ecstatic to see these kids go to you."
Every two to three weeks I get a call from Lizzy's bio dad. He has kinda ditched the pleasantries and now says something to the effect of "I was just calling to see how boogi's doing" and I tell him good. Then today he said he wanted to wish her Happy Easter and I told him she wasn't with me and he was like, "ok, bye.". Not quite that rude, but pretty close.
I am sure he is annoyed that we don't let him see her because we aren't supposed to...but does he really think that if he is short with me and sounds annoyed I am going to keep answering his calls? Last time he called I finally told him that I was eight and a half months pregnant and he didn't even ask "how does Lizzy like the new baby?"....nothing.
I have a bad attitude when people start treating me like crap. What would make them think that would help talk me into letting them see her when this is over? I have a feeling that the bed they are making for themselves is not going to include any contact ever with Lizzy.