"Hi, I am going to be back on Friday. I want to set up a time to see Lizzy on Friday because I am going to be really busy the rest of the weekend with my cousin's baby shower and stuff. Call me back."
Ummm...Lizzy is not adopted. By "set up a time to see her" she means like meeting up with us at the park, not going to her two hour supervised visit at the agency. At this point this is highly inappropriate. The state said that you need to be SUPERVISED during any contact you have with this child, preferably by a state worker.
And, just to throw this out there, a week ago she told me that she wants to go trick-or-treating with all of us so she can go trick-or-treating with Lizzy. I know it is time to set up some boundaries and I guess I am going to have to tell her that until Lizzy is adopted these things she is asking for are not decisions I am allowed to make. My initial response is to just make up an excuse like I am not available on Friday, but I think I have to go ahead and get it all out of the way because she is probably going to try to do this a lot until she goes back out of state again.
What would you tell her?