"The case of the orphan is a passion that the Lord has placed in our lives and we do what we can to help others take care of the least of these and over the years I have spent time encouraging others to adopt or foster. The most common excuse I hear from people as a reason not to foster is this: “I couldn’t do it because it would be too hard to give them back”. Have you ever thought that?
This is where I realize that through our experience with Luke I can honestly turn to these people and tell them “Yes, if you do your job right and love these children like God wants you to, you will hurt, BUT God does heal.” James 1:27 does not tell us to “take care of the widows and orphans in their distress … and you will never experience pain”. We, the body of Christ, are commanded to take care of the widows and orphans. Period. No excuses!! It does not matter if we are called to take care of and love a child for a week, a year or a lifetime. We need to do it and take the opportunity we have, while they are in our home, to show them the love of Jesus. Fostering and/or adopting are incredible opportunities to reach the hurting children of this world for Christ.
If we do our job right, and love them, if and when they leave, we will hurt. But I am so grateful for the gift of grief we experienced, because through that I know that neither I nor you have to live in fear of the pain, but delight in the One who I know will heal."
-Michelle at http://northcutt8.blogspot.com
I recommend that you got to her blog and read the whole post called "The Gift of Grief"-it will change you.