(Lizzy and my hubby Trick-or-Treating)
After Lizzy's last visit I was sick.
I could do a play by play but I think you guys get the idea. I have NEVER said anything about it, I just encourage Lizzy to go into the visit to the absolute best of my ability. This time it was so ridiculous and upsetting, while she was screaming I said (loudly) "This is so wrong!"
Well, the social worker decided to tattle on me to her supervisor which ended up back firing on her because it got me in a room with her supervisor where I told them EVERYTHING she had done including when the judge threatened to hold her in contempt of court for not turning in a report for THE SECOND TIME before the day of the hearing. In my "meeting" with the supervisor they kept saying "We just want you to know your not in trouble" because I was so upset and said "I think you are thinking we are saying you are a bad foster parent and we are definitely not" and at that point to told them "Oh trust me, I KNOW I am a good foster parent."
They were just addressing basically the lies that the social worker had just told me. After I talked to them they said they had quite a few things to talk to her about and when I went and got Lizzy from her she (the tattling worker) wouldn't even look me in the face. I grabbed Lizzy's hand from her and marched out without a word.
I don't know if I am going to be able to do anything to help Lizzy when it comes to they visits...I honestly am scared that the judge may decide that she needs MORE time with him to work through this. In a way I would understand that decision even though for Lizzy that would just mean more trauma and that needs to be taken into consideration.
I am just sickened by this worker. She has lied to me, encouraged me NOT to go to hearings, not done her work, has no answers that she should and only follows the rules when it suits her. When I was on the phone with the DHS worker he said "You should consider having your license transfered here so you don't have to deal with this".
I have only worked through an agency, not directly with DHS - anyone have any thoughts on working with an agency vs. directly with DHS?