I don't disagree.
I also stick with comments I made that these things don't matter to people in authority.
I have already had almost all these SAME issues with Sabrina's mom. I have been there and done that and here is how the story goes:
Medication: They (the bio parents) take it when they feel like it and that is good enough for everyone (but me). They always have an excuse ("I left it at home while I was spending the night at a friend's house") and that is the end of it.
Fighting: If there is no police report "it never happened". Just ask the detective on Sabrina's case or her lawyer.
Heating the house: Maybe I should have been more specific. She said that they warm up the house this way along with space heaters they have all over the house. This stuff is up to the social worker to deal with when she does the home study. In the mean time all there is for even the social worker to do is to ask them not do that while Lizzy is there. I may even do that myself.
These things seem like big deals, especially when you are new to this like I was with Sabrina, but they are not. Sabrina's lawyer said it best, "If we were deciding on who was best for the child, the foster family would almost always win, but we are not. We are not expecting these people to turn into "The Clevers", they got their kids taken away for a reason."
Notice he never could get himself to say that the bio family needed to be actually capable of raising, caring for, or protecting the child.
Then he went on to tell me about a child who died after they were returned to their bio family. He said, "We don't have a crystal ball, we don't know what these people will do, but we have to give them a chance."
So, I hate to reiterate it, but yes, I am jaded and I know that kids go home even when they shouldn't. Even when you do everything you can. Even when you will end up questioning God about it everyday there after.
Someday I will see the whole picture, today I am just taking care of my kids and if something arrises that needs to be reported I absolutely will report it, unfortunately I know these are not those things. At least where I live and with the people I am forced to work with.