Friday, December 10, 2010

Repeat.

It looks to me like Lizzy will have her first unsupervised visit with her mom on Christmas.  It still has to be brought up in court on the 20th in front of the judge, but I think they will allow it.

This has been a VERY hard part of our foster journey.  Last year, out of no where, Sabrina had her first overnight visit with her mom for Christmas as well.  When we went to the Christmas party for our agency I heard story after story from foster parent (relative placements as well) of kids being sent home for Christmas out of no where and everyone seemed very heart broken over it.  I know I was.  It is also hard because they don't seem to be checking the houses or anything, they just figure it will be ok.  It was very hard to be blind sided with that last year.  It almost ruined my Christmas.

Since then I had told God it was not ok if that happened again.  Unfortunately, it appears His plan is not to spare us from that BUT He has given us something that manages to be much better.  We should have Joseph for our first overnight visit with him for Christmas Eve AND Christmas Day.  Because of what WE have been through I did make sure that this was not going to bum out his foster mom for her holiday.  I told her if they would like him to stay there we understood, but she wants him to be with his family.  So, we will see what happens, but I think that Lizzy will be with her family for Christmas and the plan is for Joseph to be with HIS new EXCITED family this year.

Please pray that Lizzy's Judge does not loose her mind and grant her legal dad unsupervised time during the holidays, I am worried when Lizzy's mom's lawyer brings up her getting her that dad's lawyer will pipe up and ask for the same thing and some how this will all back fire on Lizzy.

8 comments:

Kelli said...

I am so excited for you to get Joseph! That is great. Praying for Lizzy through the court situation. God IS in control!

Mrs. Bird said...

Yay for Joseph spending the holidays with you! I am sorry to hear about Lizzy. Hoping that judge doesn't go crazy....

Diane said...

Sounds like you MUST be at the next court hearing, so if the judge starts to consider dad, you ask to speak and remind him L. can't function in the same room with him without you. Hopefully all will go well for both L. and J. and the rest of your family!

Ashley said...
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Heather said...

Oh how draining to go through this again. Praying for Lizzy and the decisions made. But I am super excited you get little Joseph for Christmas!

Allison said...

I just found your blog from hopping around and I can't wait to read more. Our stories seem to be similar. My husband and i are still healing as we lost our foster/adopt children two months ago (they lived with us for almost two years- only parents they ever knew as they were not even 2 and 3 years of age). They are now back home with their bio parents. Praise God we have a great relationship with the parents and can see the kids every few weeks. by far this is the hardest thing we have gone through. Taking a break through the holidays but we are getting many calls from the state. We will do it again- just not quite ready.

jendoop said...

The holidays are sooo hard!

I don't know why it is that judges think that parents' issues will magically disappear on Christmas. If anything they flare more. Good luck to you. Will pray that Lizzy has protection and that Joseph enjoys his first Christmas with you!

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