*I found this picture online, I didn't take it myself*
It is going to be really weird around here if Lizzy leaves, and then the two new girls get moved to a different state around the same time and Joseph doesn't move in right away.
I was thinking about all that today.
Before we put in our two week notice I asked my husband "What if the girls leave, will we want to tell them to forget about our two week notice for Lizzy?"
We both decided no and I hate that.
Now all of Lizzy's bio family know that I put in my notice. The social worker, that I love so much, told legal dad who then called bio mom and told her-enjoying every minute that he knew before she did, I thought it was lovely of the social worker to just tell one of them.
Bio mom and her family are now all worked up because they don't want her to leave our house. I am glad that it is that way, but of course it has put a strain on things. I guess she called her aunt who I am friends with and was crying to her about it because bio mom was in foster care quite a bit herself when she was just and she "doesn't want Lizzy to go thru the things she did."
I guess she should have thought about that before she called CPS on herself and told them to take her child away "or she would kill her". If you didn't know before, that is exactly why Lizzy is in foster care. Her mom had a mental break down, call the police and told them that bio dad just beat her up and got him hauled off to jail and then called CPS on herself because she didn't want to take care of Lizzy. At one point I asked bio dad how it all played out and his story was similar to what I had heard, while making him sound like a saint, and I asked why no one would just baby sit Lizzy while he was gone dealing with the police (because he had always been Lizzy's main care giver) and he said that everyone in his family said they couldn't "handle" her-even for an hour. I guess he was on his way home from the police station as Lizzy got taken.
There was one specific thing at the very beginning of this that I should have taken better note of. When I got my very first call about Lizzy they mentioned she was in foster care for a week and then was with family for a few months, but now needed to move to foster care again. Since they were calling me I asked "Why doesn't her first foster home want her back?" - This was avery good question on my part BUT where I screwed up was believe the answer I got. "Oh, they are full right now." Yeah, I bet. As a foster parent I know that I WANT MY KIDS BACK IF THEY COME BACK INTO CARE...unless they were horrible. Also, I know TONS of families with my agency that have empty beds right now (us included) and that was the case even 8 months ago so...I think they "fabricated" that answer.
My favorite quote I have heard thus far in foster care came straight from Lizzy DHS work. I had just told him how I had been told that Lizzy was supposed to be an adoptive placement and obviously wasn't and he told me "Sometimes we have to paint lipstick on a pig to get it placed."
That, my friends, is our foster care system.