(Pretty exciting news at the end, at least for us, so you might want to read all the way to the end)
It is always interesting to hear the entire case discussed.
The kids will not be going home at the next hearing, they don't know if mom will even be able to maintain these crazy 3 day a week visits because #1 she is like 4 months behind on rent and #2 they are concerned her utilities may be shut off at some point.
Anyway, I was kinda relieved to see who was taking the kids. I see this foster mom all the time at the agency. She seems like a tried and true foster mom and her kids always seem clean and well taken care off. She also seems very laid back and has lots of experience so I think that will help a lot too.
I was also glad that they made it clear that I was unaware of any possibility of overly aggressive behavior before I accepted the placement and that it was obviously not a good fit for us. Then everyone took turns talking about how they had no idea either (isn't it their job to know?), but most of these people haven't known these kids any longer than I have. Even the DHS worker said that she has only had the case since July so I do believe that everyone that was in the room didn't know...but I bet the worker before her did. I was the one that told everyone about all the very aggressive behavior that the Head Start people reported to me that they have seen and been well aware of for quite a while. Good times.
After everything was done I informer the new foster mom about how bio mom thinks that it is our job to provide all the diapers, wipes, and clean clothes her kids will need for the 3 days that they are with her. She even went as far as to use me as her laundry service. She made sure to send back with me random dirty clothes (ones I had never seen before, not the ones I sent with the kids) for me to wash and bring back to her. The best part of that is that I would do it for her because I didn't want the kids in dirty clothes. Being a personal servant is such a blast.
I think one thing that every foster parent worries about is being black listed by the agency if you have a child moved (or demand that they be moved like I did). Well, to put your mind at ease I would like to share with you that on my ride home from the agency I got a phone call from the agency asking me if I would like to take 3 more kids...a sib group- 3 yr old, 1 yr old, and a 3 mo. old, to which I said no.
Then they asked me if I would take just the 3 mo. old if they couldn't find a place for all the kids...to which I said yes. I had to laugh because I wanted to say yes to all three and was proud of myself for not saying yes, but I was worried my hubby would think I was out of my mind for even saying yes to the baby. Thankfully he is truly my soul mate and said the same thing as I did, "three would have been too much, but just the baby...." -be still my heart, I love this man.
Oh, and to add to the insanity that is my life...we are very excited to finally share that we, Mama Foster and my hubby, are pregnant with our 2nd bio child. Yes, we are, and I'm not kidding. And yes, I knew about this before I took the last two and still said yes.
We are very excited about it and as much as foster care drives me NUTS...turns out that I don't think we plan on quitting. Considering we might be getting a 3 mo. old tomorrow I guess we better not.