Friday, July 1, 2011

Marks.

Well, we have started the leg of this journey where we say "This Lizzy's 2nd 4th of July with us." "This is Lizzy's 2nd time at our family reunion." "This is Lizzy's 2nd summer with us." "I remember taking Lizzy to the beach with us last year."

Her next hearing is scheduled for September. That will put her at 15 months in our home, if she doesn't leave before then.

That is a long time to take care of a child, to have them call you "mommy", and then to hand them off to someone else and act as if they never existed.

It is a very unnatural thing, this life of foster care.

8 comments:

Mrs. Bird said...

I totally understand. The boys have been with us for 10 months. In care for 13...how exactly do they go home to a home they haven't know for more than a year. The baby's been in custody for 65% of his life...

StarfishMom said...

I wonder what Sprout will think IF we have to hand him over to his g-ma. Will he think we abandoned him? Will she know he's NOT the kind of kid who will cry himself to sleep??? We brought him home from the hospital. We are ALL HE KNOWS!!! I can't even imagine how I'll cope :/ xoxo

mamamargie said...

Our hearts were not designed to handle loss. Praying for you.

Andrea said...

We've only had babies. It's so strange to hand over my loves and know that without their relatives help, they will never even know we existed. Thankfully both have sent pictures and seem to want to let them know where they came from, but they don't have too. You get a strangers baby on your doorstep and then raise them and love them and then hand them to strangers. You're right, it's very unnatural!

Diane said...

Yes, it's hard, even when there is continued contact. Early on, I had a toddler boy for 2 years and then he went back to his dad. It hurts the heart, and only God can get you through.

Endless Love ~ Amazing Grace said...

It is truly hard but the things we add to their lives along the way are priceless ....

Pipsylou said...

Yes.

It gets tiring to explain to people that, though it *looks* as though we will have the option to adopt him, things can change, literally, in a minute.

MamaSalmon said...

Its very hard. im sorry.