Our agency has been in contact with mom, who now is living in another state. They keep trying to get her up here to see the kids. They picked a date and she was going to take a bus up here. The agency sent her $124 to pay for her bus ticket up here. That was their first mistake.
At 8:05 am on the day she was supposed to come up here she called and canceled. She asked if we could do the visit next week. Of course we all said sure. Not only did the agency send her money to buy a bus ticket, they also were going to be picking her up from the bus station and bringing her to the agency plus they would have to pick up her boys and bring them because the other foster mom works AND had booked a hotel room for her for that night because the next bus available to take her back home wasn't until the next day. Oh, and I forgot to mention that the very first visit she canceled was the weekend of her oldest son's birthday. I don't know what could be more important than getting up here for that considering she missed her other little boy's birthday the LAST time they came up here and decided to go back home on the day they had scheduled a visit. She doesn't work, her kids are with me...what is there to do?!?!?
Anyway, the following week we all planned on her coming for the visit. The social worker went down to the bus station and watched the bus pull in...but no mom got off. She called and mom never answered. She just didn't come. All the kids were waiting at the agency for her. The boys are older and they were bummed out. Their foster family was bummed out because they had made plans to spend some family time alone during the visit (they are struggling with the boys behavior). When I saw the kids' faces I just couldn't take it. I told them that the boys could come to my house and I would bring them home around the time the visit was supposed to end. I loaded six kids into my car and stopped at McDonald's on the way home and we had a picnic in the front yard and then they ran to the back and played and played and played. The boys never want to leave, but eventually it was time to go.
After mom didn't show and didn't call she waited a couple days and then called the social worker and told her how excited she was about the visit next week. The social worker was like, hello, that was this week. Mom claimed that no, she had meant the 19th. So, we go ahead and plan a visit for the 19th.
You will never guess what happened.
Ok, maybe you will.
On the 19th she called and said she missed/couldn't make the bus she was supposed to be on BUT if she could catch a later bus she would love to do a visit Friday.
Today is Friday. No call. No visit. And, by the way...where is that money the agency sent her???
Seriously, I think we are dealing with someone who knows how to play the system. When the kids first got taken she wouldn't sign anything, wouldn't give anyone any information and then moved to another state. Since then she has had an excuse for everything and managed to get the agency to SEND HER MONEY. Talk about good...
Here we are. The girls were supposed to be moved to the state mom is currently in well over a month ago and we haven't heard ANYTHING.
These poor kids.