Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Sisters.



Today I called Tina and the baby's social worker. They have a court date next week (so does Lizzy) and I wondered what the social worker was hoping would happen at this court date.

The girls were supposed to be moved to a different state after the last hearing, so I thought, but obviously they have not been. The social worker told me today that at the last hearing the judge said they were not going to move the case, if CPS wanted it moved to the other state they would have to move it. The social worker said she ran into the worker over her head on this case and she said that CPS had decided not to move the kids. So, next week we will hear what is going on with moves.

Besides that, the kids have not seen their parents in 2 months. They have been in care for 3 months total and have only seen their parents once right after the hearing. They have not been returning phone calls, have not done anything at all to get the kids back...all that has happened is the social worker did get one phone call back from dad and nothing was accomplished by that phone call.

It kills me that mom hasn't called. Hasn't visited. Hasn't showed that she cares at all.

Seriously, 3 months without your kids-what does she think this is? A vacation? A break? A good time for a drug binge?

It will be very hard for me to ever get behind her getting these kids back if she ever starts trying.

10 comments:

Andrea said...

I called to see about a scheduled visit with our first placement. She had seen him three times. She was over 40 minutes late for the last visit. When I called the day before to ask about it, they said "don't worry about it anymore" She had moved to Washington STATE, we live on the coast of Virginia. He was only 11 weeks old when he was taken. So he was just over 3 months when she up and left her baby. She had two other boys that were only 2 and 3 also. He's happy with his grandparents now. I hope she never comes back around. It makes me so mad that mothers squander that precious title.

Bumble Bee Momma said...

What's the abandonment rule there?

Kelli said...

it is sad. If she doesn't want them back why doesn't she just man-up and say it. Then at least the kids won't be in limbo for the next 6 months or a year waiting to find out if their parents will make the cut.

Carol said...

90 days without contact with the case worker from a parent is abandonment for that parent. So on the 91st day the law says that that parent has abandoned their child. Appearing at couort would constitute contact. We have one child that this happened with.

La Mama Loca said...

Abandonment is 12 mos here. We had 2 years with our older 3's bmom....then she lawyered up and fought the adoption for about 7 mos...in the end, signed consents.

Our younger 2, she disappeared for just shy of a year with the older. Over the next 2 years would disappear for weeks/months at a time.

Hope you get some answers at court.

La Mama Loca

Rebekah said...

Crazy. I can't imagine going a day without Ty...

Diane said...

In my state, after 6 months in care for children under 3 years, the case plan can change from family reunification to another permanency plan, usually severance and adoption unless willing relatives have already been located. At 9 months, they can terminate parental rights for children under 3 on two grounds: abandonment (no parental contact for 6 months) AND time in care (failing to make significant progress on case plan goals for 9 months). Time in care requires 15 months for children 3 and older. It usually takes the lawyers and case workers at least the three months between 6 and 9 to do all the paperwork required to file/prove TPR in court.

the johnson crew said...

makes me so sad.

Pipsylou said...

Makes me hopeful for a different *placement*, shall we say... ;)

I don't get it, either. I just don't get it.

mamamargie said...

Abandonment is 12 months in our state. But that includes Christmas and that's usually when all the warm, fuzzy maternal feelings kick in again.