Yesterday one of my fellow foster moms walked into a court room and was blindsided with a judges decision to move their foster children THAT day.
There was no warning. The children were not even allowed to say good bye to their teachers, classmates, friends....nothing. As far as everyone is concerned it will be as if they suddenly disappeared.
The number one problem is the lack of rights that these children have. From what I have seen, children have no rights at all. They don't get to express if they would like to even say good bye to someone, more or less where they would like to live.
The thing that literally keeps me up at night is that the decisions that are made in court are. NOT made in order to keep the child as safe as possible. The judges and lawyers will even tell you that. It isn't about what is safest or best for the child. It is about putting families back together in hopes that they won't do anything TOO bad to the child.
As a parent I will never understand that way of thinking.
As a human. I will never understand why a child does not have the right to be as safe as possible.
I will never get it.
I will never agree with it.
Everything is such a broken mess. Kids get hurt and then are put in foster care. Then, sometimes, they are hurt even worse in foster care (if they get bad foster parents). THEN, let's say they don't get hurt in foster care, they easily can be put in harms way again when they are returned to their bio family because of bad decisions or rules that mean nothing.
It gets old fighting a fight that is impossible to win.
For every win I am sure there is a loss. I so wish the losses were not the norm.