Bio mom called and left this message:
"my mom passed on the 3rd. We are only having a one day viewing today at ***** Funeral Home and we are having a dinner tomorrow some time, I don't know when though. If you can pick up a paper and clip out the obit for Lizzy. Call me back."
She had called from her aunt's phone number that I have programmed into my phone. When I saw it I didn't pick up.
My first instinct was to take Lizzy up to the funeral home.
My husband's response was "you are nuts, Lizzy is not going up there."
I'm glad she has one saine parent.
Technically, Lizzy is still not allowed to have any contact with her bio mom or legal dad...so legally I should not have even thought about taking her over there. Also, when you think about the tail spin in could have sent Lizzy into seeing her bio mom for the first time in months....well, I doubt it would have been a good idea for her emotionally.
In the obit, which I read online - I didn't run out and buy a paper, Lizzy was listed as one of the surviving grandchildren along with her brother that bio mom has not seen in 8 years.
Seeing her name in that paper still irks me....but it is also the truth. She is the granddaughter of this lady.
I am still constantly surprised how children can be adopted by other people and gone for years and some people act as if they are still in their lives when they are not at all. It is sad. I wish that Lizzy's mom was not mentally ill. I wish she could have been a good mom to the babies she made. I wish kids didn't need to be adopted. I wish kids didn't have to have a bio family and an adoptive family.
Most of all I hope Lizzy grows up knowing how much she is loved and wanted and perfectly placed into our family just as much as our other kids are.