Monday, April 1, 2013

So busy.

Every day is crazy around here, but things are starting to feel normal.

One of my little ones is having such a hard time telling the truth.  She is such a great kid, but she seems to be hard wired to lie.  Some times she catches herself.  I really love her.  I hope we can get this figured out.

It's spring break this week.  We are taking the kids to the water park tomorrow.  They are excited.

Some days I miss my life (maybe its just missing my free time) before bringing home FOUR more kids.  I can't imagine NOT having them here, but it doesn't mean that it is easy.

Being a mom to SEVEN is a 24 hour a day job.  They are worth it though.


Kelly said...

Wow. I get it. Two words to describe us is busy and loud. LOL

Foster Mommy NY said...

Like Kelly said, LOUD is a good word for it....and I only have 2 but when 4 more of their friends come by....WOW! I can send them home but yours are all HOME already...LOL Yes it is good and I would not change a thing as well, love to hear them doing good and laughing. :-)

Mommy Linda's said...

Lying isn't the worst thing someone can do. I know we all want children to tell the truth. After all, it will go so much better in life if they don't fib. But some people ARE hard wired to lie.

They may be prenatally affected by drugs and alcohol.
They may have a degree of attachment disorder and need some time and therapy to build the attachment.
They may have some other form of brain injury, developmental delay, or mental illness.
They may be between the ages of three and seven, when many kids are feeling out and learning the difference between fantasy and reality.
They may be frightened of the consequences of their actions and think that if they get away with it, it is worth the chance their lie can be found out.

Notice that some of these reasons for lying can be changed by parenting, and others are just there. My kids have FAS and FASD, plus have had attachment issues from multiple placements, plus have been traumatized and are extremely fearful, and my daughter is mildly developmentally delayed. After ten years, some of the causes of lying have healed, so there is much less of that going around. But they still have FASD and still lie on occasion, sometimes for the stupidest things.

I don't get angry. I don't try to get the truth out of them. I assume they lie and have them fix whatever they did without pointing blame. So when my daughter says she isn't sitting on the clean laundry, when she is clearly doing it, I don't tell her to stop lying, I tell her to get up. When she has dirty dishes under her bed, I tell her to put them in the dishwasher and to stop eating in her room. I don't ask if she ate in her room. She WILL lie about it, even if the evidence is right there.

Amy said...

We're in the very early phases of the foster process (taking the classes). That thought--"I love my life now. It's so easy" has been circulating throughout my mind. I have a hard time thinking it's about to get crazy...and hard. When it all comes down to it, I can't imagine NOT going forward with foster care. Everything about it just seems right for us at this point in time even though our lives are quite comfortable. Thanks for your blog! Has given me a good picture of what to expect.

Anonymous said...

I also have days where I miss my former life or even what my life would be right now if I let it all go. But when it comes down to it, I can't imagine not doing it.

Alicia (aka "Yaya") said...

If you give a mouse a cookie.... ;)