Have you ever heard that song? Anyway.
The last two days have sucked.
I made the mistake of letting Lizzy's bio mom say hi to her on the phone which then caused her to be a crying mess for the whole rest of the day and totally not herself for the day after that.
They talked for like 20 seconds.
I didn't think it would do that. Lizzy has been very clingy for a while now. She doesn't like when my husband goes to work, she wants all of us to be together all the time. I hope this is actually a healthy thing or leading to a healthy attachment to us, but it doesn't come across as warm as fuzzy. It comes across as a tantrum-ing mess usually.
I think talking to her mom triggers her feelings of loss and, in a way, I think there might be some fear there of loosing us as well.
Regardless, I won't be making that mistake again.
UGH. Life for us got so much smoother when the bios were completely out of the picture. I fear running into them one day in our little town. I can't imagine what it would do to them. I don't take them out much because of this reason. I certainly don't have to worry a phone call though. They only called one time even when it was set up by DHR for them to call everyday at a certain time. One phone call... period... Thank goodness. :)
ReplyDeleteI was actually just thinking about reaching out to our girls Grandma to have phone calls but wondered if this exact thing would happen.
ReplyDeleteOur little one is showing extreme clingy-ness as well right now and I can tell it's signs of attachment. Frustrating as a parent since it requires me to give more when I already feel beyond stretched. But so so good for her that I have to ignore my personal space bubble.