tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post6527310942211058293..comments2023-11-02T06:27:00.113-07:00Comments on Mama Foster: Real.MamaFosterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-38970085689732859132011-12-11T07:19:29.844-08:002011-12-11T07:19:29.844-08:00You describe the relationship between Scott and I ...You describe the relationship between Scott and I so perfectly. ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14686966887504657288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-22651478288023350952011-12-10T17:21:50.009-08:002011-12-10T17:21:50.009-08:00Sounds a lot like us...but I am see that you are e...Sounds a lot like us...but I am see that you are equally thankful to have a voice of reason that you trust so much. I would easily allow people to manipulate me too much without mine :-)Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12653443720538298992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-56926896064377134452011-12-08T09:24:31.070-08:002011-12-08T09:24:31.070-08:00I think your husband might like some concrete numb...I think your husband might like some concrete numbers for you to argue your case. How many visits outside of CPS have you had? Inside CPS, the bio-parents are highly scrutinized. It might be intimidating for them so they skip it. plus, a birthday/christmas visit might actually give them an incentive to show up. And having it as McD's is low pressure.<br /><br />You could pitch it to your husband like if there are behavior issues post-visit, you'll agree to stop community visits for x# months. After x% of supervised visits actually made by parents, you'll reconsider.Denver Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16236286296187463673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-29712862570878719222011-12-08T09:23:54.825-08:002011-12-08T09:23:54.825-08:00It's good to have balance. My hubby and I don&...It's good to have balance. My hubby and I don't see eye to eye on a lot of things foster/adoption related, but the differences offer good perspective that I'm thankful for!Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-19931212637497305182011-12-08T08:35:39.277-08:002011-12-08T08:35:39.277-08:00it is very close to mom who I think will come. it...it is very close to mom who I think will come. it is also very close to our home so if they don't show it will just be another trip to mcdonalds.<br /><br />bio dad will probably come. he is having car issues but i think he will try to get there. i will tell him that he can invite his sister who maybe will want to come and she has a good car.<br /><br />i think mom will come, if not, at least they had their chance.<br /><br />and i understand about the car seat :)MamaFosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-52663470172625342582011-12-08T08:27:43.241-08:002011-12-08T08:27:43.241-08:00Your husband and my husband need to be friends, lo...Your husband and my husband need to be friends, lol. We just had this same conversation over me letting a biomom keep a carseat I had "loaned" to her, because I found out that she really is using it (which thrills my soul). <br /><br />If Lizzy's bioparents haven't come to the visitations, do you think they'll actually show up for the party? Is it closer to where they are?Mama Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15195572782488016553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-52060388048483781212011-12-08T08:15:53.123-08:002011-12-08T08:15:53.123-08:00My husband and I are certified and waiting for our...My husband and I are certified and waiting for our first placement. We had a similar conversation yesterday - not about foster kids and their parents, but about family who stay with us every time they're in town. We love them very much, and love our time together, but they routinely disrespect the boundaries we've set for how our house runs. My husband gets very frustrated, and I have been taking the path of least resistance and rearranging how WE do things instead of setting firmer boundaries. I have to have a difficult (for me) conversation with my family member tonight, because you're right: it's not fair that my husband is the one who always has to compromise.<br /><br />I know it's totally not the same thing, but it's good to be reminded that I'm not the only one in a situation like this.Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17087847312958608930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-86551972333101762342011-12-08T07:55:33.257-08:002011-12-08T07:55:33.257-08:00and there you have it :)
making sure your strengt...and there you have it :)<br />making sure your strengths keep you together as a unified front, balanced and strong.<br />Love you guys!Pamnoreply@blogger.com