tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post4836480877678827026..comments2023-11-02T06:27:00.113-07:00Comments on Mama Foster: Chaos.MamaFosterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-83500946762033791342011-01-19T07:22:11.946-08:002011-01-19T07:22:11.946-08:00Lol those are fighting words...but it can go both ...Lol those are fighting words...but it can go both ways! I remember when Goofy Girl first had visits w/ bio mom after over a year from seeing her (MIA from 11 mos to 2 yrs old). In all her 'talking' development, there was no one but me to call Mama. When bio mom started visits, she kept insisting Goofy Girl call her Mami. Oh did it grate on my nerves when she would...although GG thought that was bmom's name...she didn't equate that with "mommy". I can see why they are fighting words....but I also think the kids have a right to feel 'normal' and call their caregivers mom and dad. If the bios want to be mom and dad, then they need to work their case plan and get them back!Missional Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18007045890708408269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-17361400006984052382011-01-18T19:17:28.719-08:002011-01-18T19:17:28.719-08:00You are probably going to hate me after we get our...You are probably going to hate me after we get our kids because I am going to ask you questions all.the.time.<br /><br />:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02706974478327921515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-9979103548248265442011-01-18T17:31:05.934-08:002011-01-18T17:31:05.934-08:00I used to feel bad that the kids call me "Mom...I used to feel bad that the kids call me "Mom" until multiple caseworkers told me that it is completely normal for kids to call their primary caretakers "mom" and "dad" and that they would be more concerned if they didn't! I offered my current kids several options other than Mom and they REFUSED to call me any of them. They ASKED to call me Mom! Their bio mom doesn't like it one bit, but, as the caseworker said, it's not about her, it is about whatever makes the kids feel most secure.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01363840675301513089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43056709404910466.post-28425534031303435932011-01-18T08:59:40.467-08:002011-01-18T08:59:40.467-08:00Yep... "Them's fightin' words!"...Yep... "Them's fightin' words!" :) I just wrote a post about why I have the kids call me "Mimi," and that's one of the reasons. A lot of the parents already see us as "the enemy." And hearing their baby call me "Mama" isn't going to help matters. (Although I am DYING to hear a little one say "Mama" and know that they are talkin about me!)aka. Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376180051266883586noreply@blogger.com